How to Write A Birthplan (and Why Flexibility Matters)

When you're preparing for birth, there's a lot to consider, from the kind of birth experience you hope for, to who you want by your side in the delivery room. That’s where a birth plan comes in.

A birth plan is a simple document that outlines your preferences for labour, delivery, and postpartum care. It's not about scripting your entire birth experience, but about communicating your wishes clearly to your care team. It empowers you with a sense of control and ensures your voice is heard, while also keeping space for the unexpected.

What to Include in Your Birth Plan

Here’s a list of common preferences to think about as you begin writing your plan:

Labour Environment

• Who do you want in the room?

• Do you want music, low lighting, or a quiet space?

• Would you prefer intermittent or continuous monitoring?

 Pain Relief Options

• Are you open to an epidural or would you prefer drug-free methods?

• Would you like to use a birthing ball, water bath, or massage?

Birth Preferences

• Preferred positions for labour or pushing

• Use of forceps or vacuum only if necessary

• Delayed cord clamping

• Immediate skin-to-skin contact

Newborn Care

• Who will cut the cord?

• Vitamin K injection: yes or no?

• Breastfeeding or bottle feeding?

Special Considerations

• Preferences in case of induction or C-section

• Cultural or religious preferences

• Language or accessibility needs

A birth plan isn’t a contract. It’s a conversation starter.

Birth is unpredictable, and plans may need to change. Being open to guidance from your care team while keeping your priorities in mind is a powerful balance. Think of your birth plan as a guidebook, not a rulebook. Flexibility allows you to stay calm and grounded, even if things unfold differently than expected.

Tips for Creating Your Birth Plan

✔ Keep it short, one page is plenty
✔ Use bullet points for clarity
✔ Discuss it with your midwife or doctor
✔ Print a few copies for your birth partner and hospital bag
✔ Focus on what matters most to you

Writing a birth plan is a beautiful step toward mindful birth preparation. It encourages reflection, communication, and connection with your birth team and your partner. But remember: the most important outcome is a safe delivery, for both you and your baby. Stay informed, stay open, and trust yourself.

If you're ready to begin creating your own, many of our planners and journals include space for your birth plan, checklists, and reflections. Because your story deserves to be written with care.