What should you write on your RSVP wedding cards? What do you need to leave blank for your guests to write? In this post we will go through all the practical details of how to word your RSVP cards and more!
First of all, if you haven't already, take a look at our wedding timeline post and download our wedding stationery checklist.
There are a few things you need to be aware of, just a little bit of practical advice (and a touch of etiquette):
1. How many guests are invited?
Many couples ask their guests to write down the number of people that will be attending. This is obviously not an open invitation to bring along as many people they want (couples know, guests know too). To avoid making things awkward for your guests and to avoid having to clarify things later, you should state how many guests or who is invited on your RSVP card. There are a couple of ways of doing that on an RSVP card: you could either specify it on the card itself by adding something like "We reserved .... seats in your honour" or (slightly less obvious but still effective) by addressing who the invited guests are on the envelope. By not addressing someone on the envelope, that person should consider himself/herself not invited. This is very useful if you are thinking of not inviting children at your wedding reception.
2. Names of your guests
It is important that you know who has replied to your invitation. It goes without saying! A line with "M" at the front so that guests can write their names (and their titles). Some brides go as far as assigning each guest to a number, they then write that number very small at the back of the RSVP. This is a fail proof way of ensuring you know who has replied!
3. When the reply is requested by
Unless you want to chase up each of your guests individually, it is a good idea to give them a deadline for returning the RSVP card. A line at the top saying something along the lines of "the favour of your reply is requested by..." or "kindly respond by ..." will do.
4. Dietary Requirements
If you have special menu options, or have friends and family with food intolerances or food preferences, it might be a good idea to include a section for dietary requirements. Just a dotted line at the bottom of the RSVP will suffice, but it will save you time and embarrassment later!
5. Return Address
It is generally a good idea to write or print the return address on the inside envelope (as well as provide a stamp for it). Another way of getting around having to write the return address multiple (sometimes hundreds) of times, is to print it at the bottom of the RSVP card, so your guests can write it on the envelope themselves. It goes without saying that if your guests don't know where to send your RSVP card back, you're going to get loads of phone calls and emails asking for it!
6. Song Request
This is a very contemporary addition to RSVP cards, but couples love it and I get more and more requests asking to add it on their cards. A simple dotted line asking for their favourite song (ask for the name of the song and the artist) or the song that will get them dancing on the dance floor will do.